This is us.
Now i'll tell you how we work together, not everything I say here will work for everyone, like I said before we are all different.
TIP 1: Be open with eachother.
You've probobly have heard this a lot but in all honesty it makes things so much easier for the both of you. Be upfront about the things that bother you, not in a "lets start a fight" kind of way but a "hey lets fix this issue and move on" kind of way. Heres and example for you Me: Evan, it really bothers me when you talk to (insert girls name here), I trust you but I see her as a threat to me and it makes me uncomfortable. I'm not trying to be controlling, you obviously can do as you choose but I'd like you to know how I feel about this. Evan: Okay, thank you for being honest with me, I appreciate it and if it makes you uncomfortable then I'll stop talking to her. Thats how the actual converstation went. He stopped talking to her and we moved on rather than it blowing up into a huge fight. Its just that easy. Speak up if your upset, let them know whats wrong so you both can work on how to resolve the issue. Keeping things bottled up does no good to either of you.
TIP 2: Don't compare your current relationship with your past one.
this kind of speaks for itself. Just quit comparing relationships with past ones and the ones of your friends. Yours is different. Just enjoy what you have with eachother.
TIP 3: Appreciate them!!!
They really go out of their way to make you happy and you should recognize that, vocalize how much you appreciate all that they do for you!! Give them praise for the great things that they do.
TIP 4: Tell them you love them often.
Now it gets annoying when you say it a million times in under and hour but let them know that you love them. Like really love them. The word "love" gets so overused so let them know that when you say it to them you really mean it. Still to this day whenever Evan says that to me it gives me butterflies. Also if you have been in a relationship for a long time remind them why you fell for them.
TIP 5: Support them.
Even if you think their dream is a little unrealistic, you never know what they can achieve when they have a little support from you. Encourage them to go out and reach their goals. Also be the person that they arn't afraid to break down infront of, none of us like crying or falling apart in front of others but during that time we really need just someone to hold us when we have fallen down. Be there for them.
TIP 6: Never give up on eachother.
Every couple has their down moments, the most important thing to do is don't give up on each other. You can fix it. A great relationship isn't just going to magically happen, it takes a lot of work. So work hard on it.
TIP 7: Mix it up.
Don't let yourself get stuck in a boring routine. Go out and do something that you guys have never done before, Those moments together are what builds up all the memmories and excitement.
TIP 8: Be their best friend.
I'm sure you've heard this a lot as well but its true that it makes amazing relationships. Tell eachother everything, joke and laugh together, A great relationship is like having a best friend that you never get sick of and that you can sleep with.
TIP 9: Trust.
Yes if you have been burned in the past then you might have some issues but that doesn't mean that you can use that as an excuse for being crazy with your current S/O. Trust them. It'll make communication with eachother so much better.
So theres my advice, These are the things that make Evan and I great with eachother. These things might not apply to every realationship but these are the things that we have applied to our lives that make our relationship really awesome.
-Paige
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